35 ways of pleasing your husband! A few decades back, this was perhaps the most important lesson that a mother taught to her daughter. It was a crucial life lesson, considering how a woman’s life fettered just within the walls of her house.
But today, there is a lot more on a woman’s plate!
From handling a company to controlling a country, women today are ruling the world.
As such, the conversation of pleasing your husband has taken a back seat!
And this has jolted the institution of marriage that was solely cemented by the woman in the house. There is an astounding spurt in the incidences of divorces. Men have not evolved much, but women have sailed seas.
This has dug a pit so big that marriages are falling off the creek.
Blame it on the stress, incompatibility, and ego-centric attitudes from both or the lack of mutual respect, trust, and love.
But let’s face the harsh reality. This reality is not going to take us anywhere!
We need each other for procreation, survival, for love. That’s why even after failed marriages people don’t give up on love. They try to find it again and again and again!
That’s why I am sharing this blog with all married people or those in love who can try these simple tricks to make the relationship work.
But before that check this out!
According to social scientists, after 3 years of marriage, men slip into any of these categories:
- 6% cooperate with their wives on all or most of the matters concerning their wives.
- 30% cooperate with their wives on some matters concerning their wives.
- 40% cooperate with their wives on only certain matters concerning their wives.
- 20% approve of only a few matters concerning their wives
- 4 % disagree on every issue concerning their wives
It would be much easy for you to shape your life if you know exactly which category your husband falls in.
Busting a big bubble
One of the biggest misconceptions we all grew up with is that – a good wife can change her husband’.
First thing, people resist change, no matter for good or bad!
Change of character, behavior, and conduct of a man is possible only when he is a kid. A grown-up man won’t walk according to your vices.
If you think he would change miraculously after the day of marriage then it’s nothing but an illusion!
When people change, they don’t change because someone asks them to change. They change because they want to change. You can just motivate or support them in their path to change. But it’s on them to take that decision.
An alcoholic drops the bottle only when something in him changes, internally. He does not drop the bottle because someone is cranky about it!
Similar is the thing about a smoker or a womanizer. It’s an internal change that triggers from within.
So, the relationship would hit a hard rock if you try too hard to change him. Especially if you don’t know the tricks of this trade!
The tricks of this trade: 35 tips to please your husband
Learn to listen
Listen to him and be empathetic. His virtues don’t have to match yours. Just listen
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Don’t talk about the ugly truth
There are some things that you know will hurt. And you don’t talk about those things with your husband. Your past relationships, salary, weight, and such sensitive topics are off the table. You don’t talk about that.
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Be responsible for his rise.
Believe in his dreams. Encourage him and be a part of his success.
Be there for the family
Your commitment to your family is not a burden but a blessing.
Don’t compare your man
Every married man is different and unique. So, never ever talk about comparing your husband to someone else.
Give the man some space
After he comes back home, give him some time to unwind before you start talking.
Don’t be the mother
No man is perfect and you can’t expect your man to be. The wet towel, the half-eaten food, dirty drawer, don’t nag him constantly for these. . Help him sort these things out without the use of harsh words.
Don’t keep doing the same things
Once a merchant saw a little bump on one side of his favorite red carpet. He leveled it by trampling on the bump. But then the bump appeared in another part. He leveled that also by trampling there also but yet again the bump appeared at another part.
Irked on repeating the same exercise again and again he just pulled up the carpet only to find a snake provoked by his repeated thrashing, pouncing on him!
So do not blow a problem out of proportion. Just solve it.
Walk with your man
Be it a social event or a dinner date, be with your husband! Be present in your relationship.
Don’t spit the venom
Never use insulting words. Especially words that hurt badly. And most importantly never in front of others.
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Be the friend he never had
A wife has to play multiple roles. Be the friend he can crack a joke with. Don’t take life too seriously and don’t get pissed at simple things. See life in a frame that’s beyond you!
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Bring the balance
If you are an employed woman, then ensure a healthy work-life balance.
Sit and talk
Issues and arguments are inevitable when you live with another person so closely. So, have a sacred rule to resolve your issues. Sit down, breathe calmly, and talk it out!
Make love intense
Respect, talk, and share your feelings. This is the key to making love more intense.
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Watch your tongue
When one partner gets dominant the other most likely gets subsided. They fall off into a dark pit of humiliation and depression. So, watch your tongue every time you speak!
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Greet with gratitude
Respond to every gesture of love, however big or small. Appreciate his efforts and applaud the feelings behind the gift.
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The 90-minute rule
Don’t sit at home fuming to blast as he enters. Don’t open up the barrage of your issues as he walks in after a hard day. If there is a problem then start talking after 90 minutes of his return.
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Greed is a great killer
Don’t be greedy but be grateful. Find happiness in the little thrills of life. Don’t hunt for materialistic possessions or superficial pleasures.
Cut the crab
Does the little things in making really worth making a fuss about? Choose peace over chaos. So, forgive him and you might have to do it a thousand times.
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Sunday is meant to be a fun day
Be the young enigmatic urban weekend couple. Even if the week passes by in a whip, redeem your life on the weekend. Spend Sunday time with your partner. Understand each other and love each other.
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The golden rule
Don’t go complaining about every relative or friend your husband has. They won’t be perfect and you might not like many of them. But you have to put on that happy face at times for a happy marriage.
Switch your complaints with praises
Flatter a man and he will move mountains for you. So, whenever you want your husband to do anything, start by praising and not by complaining.
Bond over food
No bond is stronger than the love of food. Cook together, eat together, bake together. Happiness is hidden in the kitchen!
Be kind, who is kind
A little shred of empathy can make a world of difference. Handle every situation with some empathy.
Keep the company that helps
Choose your friends wisely. Keep away from people who poison your mind. Don’t let people instill negative thoughts. Stay away from jealousy, envy, anger, and bitterness.
Work on yourself
As I said, no human is perfect. You too have things to work on. So, rather than thinking about your husband’s lacking at all times, focus on developing yourself.
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Keep up the spice with surprises
Surprise your husband often. Little gestures of love keep the heat high. Prepare a date or give him a gift. You know your man’s taste.
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Align with your in-laws
The easiest way to be the queen of your husband’s heart is to take care of your in-laws. Involve them in your life and let them have a special place in your life.
Care for his image
Don’t talk badly behind your husband’s back. Especially with your family. They will lose respect for the man. Because when you are angry you make things look way worse.
Keep the house clutter-free
A clutter-free house keeps the atmosphere calm. Clutter induces stress and stress makes life difficult.
Delegate the work
You take charge of the house. But you don’t have to work alone. Delegate work to your maid, to your husband, and to your kids. Let everyone have an important role to play in the house.
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Take care of yourself
You can only pour from a cup that’s full. So, if you are distressed and unhappy then that’s what you will pour into the family. Focus on contentment and happiness. Take care of yourself.
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Take time off
Sticking together at all times can get overwhelming. So, take time off each other and let the distance brew your romance.
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Enjoy the sex
Don’t think about the thousand things that went wrong in the day while you are getting in action. Relax, let the thoughts evaporate, and enjoy it completely.
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A woman is much smarter than a man especially when it comes to dealing with emotions. So, understand your husband and then use smart tricks to keep him on track!
By the way, share it with your husbands too as the list remains the same for both parties.
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